Right Here. Right Now.
An easy technique to help you be grateful and content right now.
-by Angela Angelovic
WHO IS THE IDIOT UP FRONT SLOWING THE LINE? I was sitting in the car line to pick my kids up from school. It was taking FOREVER! I was impatient. There were a million other things I wanted to be doing. WHAT WAS TAKING SO LONG? I wanted to get on to the next thing, not waste my day trapped in my car.
If you had asked me if I was content, I would have said, “Yes, I’m content with the amount of money we make. I’m content with the car I drive. I’m content with my small, but cozy home.” But was I content sitting in that car line? Heck no! I was content with the big picture, but I was missing the chance to be content in my daily situations.
After a few minutes of grumbling, something entered my mind. “What is ONE THING I can enjoy about being RIGHT HERE, RIGHT NOW?” After rolling my eyes at myself, I decided to try it. I took a deep breath and closed my eyes.
The warm sun feels good on my shoulder.
I’m thankful for the sun.
I’m content sitting here in the warm sun.
I’m enjoying being right here, right now.
Over the next several months, as I was in situations that were not at all fun, the thought would come back to me.
“What can I enjoy about right here, right now?”
Waiting at the DMV, standing in the grocery store checkout line, sitting in a boring meeting, feeling stressed while paying the bills; these became opportunities to practice my new exercise.
It feels good when I take a deep breath.
My seat is comfortable.
I’m satisfied with food.
The stone on my ring feels smooth on my fingers.
Over the years, this practice has evolved to include times I didn’t feel impatient or stressed.
The sunlight is glistening on the water.
I can hear happy birds singing.
The breeze feels good on my skin.
As treatment for post traumatic stress.
Someone very dear to me suffered a violent assault. This person shared with me an exercise that her therapist taught her in order to combat the effects of post traumatic stress. Curiously, this exercise is very similar the one I have practiced for years.
The therapist told her that when she is feeling anxiety, to stop what she is doing, take a deep breath, and go through a list of what’s true right now. Anxiety is caused by imagining that the worst is going to happen, while this exercise forces us to look at the truth.
Right here, right now, I am safe.
Right here, right now, I’m surrounded by loved ones.
Right here, right now, I am protected.
Right here, right now, I can get through whatever happens to me.
Focusing on something pleasant, something true, can help us transcend an unpleasant situation or feeling. Why don’t you try it Right Here, Right Now?